Dear Abby: My boyfriend keeps secretly calling his ex-wife

DEAR ABBY: I am dating an older man with two ex-wives.I have met both of them.

I don’t mind them.The last ex-wife and I get along.

She usually calls me because he won’t answer his phone for her.The first ex-wife I don’t like at all (I used to talk to her) because she’s lied to me about him. This woman has her kids call and tell him to call her (which he sneaks around to do), among other things.

She talks smack about two of her kids with him (supposedly his), and she cheated on him numerous times.Anytime we see her, which is usually at one of the kids’ houses, she or he runs to give the other a hug.

I think this is very wrong and I’ve twice said something to him. Am I wrong? Am I jealous? He says they don’t want to be with each other, they’re just friends, but I don’t trust her.I feel like she’s trying to start trouble.

(Not to mention, one of the kids remarked, “If Mom wanted him back, she could get him.”) I respect your opinion.Please help me.

— AM I RIGHT OR WRONG?DEAR RIGHT OR WRONG: Many divorced couples try to keep things amicable for the sake of their children.Your twice-married boyfriend may be one of them.

If you trust what he says, his first ex-wife isn’t likely to wreck your relationship unless your insecurity allows it.If you cannot trust this man’s word, you should no longer be together.

What the kid said hasn’t helped the situation.Please do not let it cause trouble in your relationship with their father.DEAR ABBY: I filed for divorce nine months ago.

The judge signed my papers six weeks ago.I was with my alcoholic ex for 17 years, married for 12.

I knew my marriage was over a year ago, so I was preparing myself. Four months ago, I met “Aaron,” a man I have grown to really like.He feels the same, but my sisters feel I shouldn’t be thinking about a relationship.

My kids are grown and out of the house.They have met Aaron and say, “Whatever makes you happy,” but I’m afraid if my sisters find out I�...