These sex myths are holding your relationship back

Sexual myths (SMs) are a roadblock to a thriving sexual connection.SMs are false beliefs and attitudes that influence a couple’s sex life.They’re unquestioned, implicit ideas and can contribute to unrealistic expectations and unnecessary pressure.If entrenched, SMs can lead to dissatisfaction or issues in the bedroom.

It’s important to identify the myth you hold and work in opposition to it.We’ve outlined some SMs and how to oppose them here.Keep in mind many SMs exist and this list is by no means exhaustive.This is the belief sex should always be spontaneous and unplanned.Holding this myth, however, can lead to no sex.

With busy lives, it is easy for sex to slip off the priority list.This myth disregards the importance of communication and intentionality in a healthy and active sex life.Solution: schedule sex into your life.In the My Love Your Love app, we have created an exercise where you discuss and schedule sex called Making Time for Sexy Time.This is the misconception that sex is only valid if it involves penetrative intercourse.Such a myth neglects the diversity of sexuality and intimate activities while adding pressure to perform penetrative sex, potentially leading to performance issues both in men and women.It neglects other forms of sexual pleasure that can be equally or more sexually satisfying.

Solution: spend more time on non-penetrative sex.See foreplay as sex, rather than something that happens before sex.

Try a no-penetration sex challenge and focus on touching only.This myth perpetuates the idea that every sexual encounter must lead to orgasm for both partners to consider it successful or satisfying.Holding onto this myth will lead to frustrations and even resentments.Orgasms are great, but they can be elusive, particularly if you are stressed, depressed or stuck in your thoughts.

Performance pressure is real when it comes to arousal and orgasm.The more pressure you put on yourself to be aroused or to orgasm, the more elusive that aro...