My sister-in-law put her kids up for adoption because she missed her old life

A woman has written into a parenting advice column after she and her husband adopted her SIL’s twins. “My husband and I went into parenting thinking we’d like to have three or four kids,” she begins. “My first pregnancy had some serious complications at the end, but my doctors agreed that a second pregnancy was still appropriate with a few precautions.My second pregnancy was terrible and ultimately led to a hysterectomy when the baby was delivered.“Last year, when our kids were three and four, we decided to explore adoption and/or fostering, as we felt like we still had room and love for more children in our life.”Around the same time, her sister-in-law got married and became pregnant with twins.

Apparently, she had “never expressed much desire” to have children and was definitely “stressed” to discover it was twins.The poster continued: “When the twins were about six weeks old, they all came to stay with us for a weekend to attend SIL’s friend’s wedding, during which we agreed to watch the babies.“They ended up texting around 11 p.m.that they’d had more to drink than they’d planned and the party was still going, so would we mind if they just got a hotel room and we’d keep watching the babies overnight? We were fine with it.”Two weeks after the wedding, they asked to come visit the family again.

They told the couple that having twins was “significantly more difficult than either of them had imagined” and “they were really missing their previous life and the ability to do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted.”“They said they knew we were considering adoption and wondered if we would take in their twins,” the OP wrote.“They thought it would be the best solution as they could continue to see them and be involved in their lives (at their convenience).My husband and I were shocked.

We spent the next month talking to them about it more and went to multiple counselling sessions with them.”“Ultimately, w...