Dear Abby: I want to leave my unhappy marriage after reconnecting with an old friend

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 12 years.Things were good in the beginning.

However, many times he has let me down by not helping with bills, stress, etc.He recently lost a job, which has added to my stress because we now have a child. I have been communicating with an old work friend who makes me feel like we would be great together.He’s married, too, but we are both unhappy in our marriages.He wants me to relocate and be with him, but although I can see us together, I’m not sure I want to move to where he lives.Although he has admitted he’s unhappy, he never mentions he wants a divorce.

He has said only that he wants us to be together. I’m torn, Abby.Do I stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of my child, or divorce and relocate, hoping everything will work out? Please help me to settle my mind, heart and thoughts.

— TROUBLED IN TEXASDEAR TROUBLED: From what you have written, it appears that while your “old work friend” may be unhappy in his marriage, he has NO plans to divorce his wife although he would like you to dump your husband, uproot your and your child’s lives and be more geographically convenient — for him.Following this road map, hoping everything will work out with no guarantee about stability for you and your child, could end in disaster.Please take your head out of the clouds and start thinking strategically and rationally.Right now, you are doing neither.DEAR ABBY: I enjoy my job and have good compensation and benefits.

I am lucky to work for a progressive, flexible company.However, the atmosphere in our office is very isolating.My boss is kind and supportive, but overall, I don’t feel much support or kindness from my co-workers.Most of them are in their 30s and from upper-middle-class backgrounds.

I am not, and I’m in my early 60s. People in my workplace are very cliquish.They do not invite me into their activities or interactions.

If I make a comment, I’m often ignored.I have tried hard to be f...