My husband accused me of making Christmas about race

A devastated woman has shared the insensitive comment her husband made about her family and Christmas.She explained in an online post, asking for help:“I’m a British-Asian woman married to a white man, and I’m currently pregnant with our first child.I need some advice about a situation that’s really bothering me.”The pregnant woman further explained:“I suggested hosting Christmas this year but separately for our families – mainly because of logistics.“My family is quite large (10 people), younger (mostly teens and twenty-somethings), and celebrates with music, games, and a lively atmosphere.“His family is small (four people), much older (60s-80s), more traditional, and quieter.

His father has dementia and hearing difficulties, which makes large gatherings challenging for him.“When I suggested hosting our families separately to make everyone more comfortable, my husband immediately accused me of wanting an “Asian-only Christmas where we just do our own Asian thing.”“I was shocked because it had nothing to do with race – I was thinking about space, comfort levels, and very different celebration styles.“My sister’s boyfriend is white too, so it wasn’t about excluding anyone based on race.”Rattled by her husband’s comment, the woman shared how it made her feel.“I ended up feeling so guilty that I changed my plans to invite his family, but I’m deeply troubled by his response and how quickly he turned a practical concern into a racial accusation.“This isn’t the first time he’s done something like this – any discussion involving race tends to end badly.“I’m especially worried as we’re expecting a child.What if our child had heard that comment?”The woman’s post received a mixed response, with one asking:“Very strange thing for him to say.

How long have you been married? Has this kind of thing happened before?”The mom-to-be replied: “This was my point.It hurt me so bad.

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