Dear Abby: My husband says Im selfish for getting pregnant even though we planned this together

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married less than a year, and I’m pregnant with my first child.Our baby was planned, and we were thrilled. Something changed with my husband once I hit the second trimester.

If I read something about pregnancy and try to share it with him, he instantly shuts me down, saying I shouldn’t believe everything I read or that I’m wasting my time.He doesn’t want to set up anything in the nursery, either.

He keeps saying we don’t need to do it until a month before the baby is due. I’m trying to be patient and understanding, but friends have now taken a step back from talking to me and I’m feeling very isolated.The other night, my husband put me down at dinner with friends.

One of them said being pregnant was the most selfish thing a woman could do, and my husband agreed! I am still hurt by the comment.While the person apologized for saying it and further explained their position on the subject (everyone had been drinking, except me), my husband hasn’t apologized.

He refuses and says I’m idiotic for being so upset about it. I am at a loss here.We planned for this baby, and I thought it would bring us even closer.

Now I feel incredibly alone and sad.Why would anyone say something so cruel, and why would my husband agree instead of being on my side? — EXPECTING MORE IN NEW JERSEYDEAR EXPECTING: Pregnancy is an exciting and challenging experience for all concerned, and your emotions may be heightened.

Although your husband was initially enthusiastic about the idea of starting a family right away, it’s possible that during this second trimester he recognized the reality of the responsibilities that come with parenthood.It is also possible that, because of your excitement about your pregnancy, it has become your main topic of conversation, which may be why your friends have stepped back. The remark that was made the evening the two of you were with friends was likely fueled by too much alcohol and not enough go...