My brother banned my toddler from his wedding so Im boycotting his big day

A woman has taken to Reddit after a disagreement with her brother over attending his child-free wedding.The woman and her husband have a two-year-old, who she said is exceptionally well-behaved, and who she would like to attend the wedding with.However, her brother declined – and now she doesn’t want to come to the wedding at all.“My brother is getting married in two months, and he recently informed me that his wedding will be ‘no kids allowed’.I totally understand that not everyone wants children at their wedding, and I have no issue with that concept in general.

The problem is that my husband and I have a two-year-old daughter,” she said in the post.“When I asked him if he could make an exception for her—since it’s not like she’s a group of unruly children, just one well-behaved toddler—he said no.He explained that they want an ‘elegant, adult-only’ event, and having even one child there might make other family members feel like they can bring their kids, too.”The woman then explained that if her daughter wasn’t able to come to the wedding, she wouldn’t be able to either.“I said that while I respect their choice, it would be really difficult for me to find reliable childcare for that day.

My husband and I don’t have family nearby who could watch her, and hiring someone to care for her for an entire day (plus the overnight stay required because the venue is out of town) is costly and a bit scary—especially since our daughter has never been with a babysitter before,” she said.“When I told my brother I likely wouldn’t be able to attend under those conditions, he got upset.He said I was being selfish and putting my child above the family, and that this is his big day.

My parents are now chiming in, saying I should just ‘figure it out’ because it’s his wedding, and I’m the only sibling who’s not showing support.“I don’t want to ruin his day, but I also feel uncomfortable leaving my toddler with a strange...