Dear Abby: My rude family members dont give thank you cards should I still give a wedding gift?
DEAR ABBY: A few years ago, we were invited to my cousin’s eldest daughter’s wedding.Although my cousin and I are close, I barely know the daughter.
We were invited only because my cousin wanted me there.The wedding was out of town, which necessitated a motel stay, meals and gas, in addition to a generous cash gift.
The cash gift was what the couple had requested, since they had been living together and didn’t need household items. Our check was cashed two days after the wedding, but we never got a thank-you.Three months later, I ran into the bride’s mother and asked how the happy couple was doing.
I also mentioned that we never received an acknowledgment of our gift.She responded that her daughter had been busy and “apparently she didn’t have the time” to send thank-yous. Two years later, the same scenario unfolded when daughter No.
2 got married, and the mother offered the same exact excuse for her daughter’s poor manners.We have now received a “save the date” card for daughter No.
3.I’m curious — what would you do? –– UNTHANKED IN INDIANADEAR UNTHANKED: If I felt close to the daughter, I would attend the wedding.
I would give her a gift, recognizing that it probably would not be acknowledged because the girls were never taught the social graces.But I wouldn’t preemptively penalize daughter No.
3 for the sin of omission committed by her sisters.DEAR ABBY: My first marriage lasted 31 years.He was a nice man but a lousy husband.
He died after a long illness.A year later, I started dating, met another man, and fell in love.
We dated for a year before he proposed marriage.Two months before the wedding, I called it off because he lacked communication skills and was pretty selfish.His comment was, “We talk at the dinner table.
What more do you want?” The next day, I told him it was over. Other than that one issue, we got along well.He spoiled me.
We traveled together, and he bought me beautiful jewelry.But he would send e...