Dear Abby: My friend demands to stay the night at my house how do I kick her out?
DEAR ABBY: I have an old friend who lives an hour from me.I visit her for the day and come home.
I have never invited her to spend the night at my home, nor do I expect her to invite me for a sleepover when I drive down to see her. The last two times she has visited me, she has arrived at 9 a.m.I assumed she came early because she wanted to spend the whole day.
She expected me to sit and talk all day.She refused to do anything except eat and talk.
I am not a sitter, and I hated doing it, but she’s a good friend, so I put up with it.Both times, around 5 p.m., she went to her car and brought in luggage expecting to spend the night.
Then we ended up staying up until midnight so she could talk some more. How can I tell her I’d prefer that she go home at the end of the day? She has been seeing psychiatrists for 50 years.It sounds like she goes just to talk.
She’s also afraid of everything and has no hobbies or other interests.What can I do to put an end to her uninvited overnight stays without hurting her or risking sending her into meltdown? — TREADING LIGHTLY IN THE WESTDEAR TREADING: You are not responsible for this woman’s mental health, nor should you be.
She appears to have been using you as a supplemental (unpaid) therapist.The next time she wants to come for another marathon talk session, tell her you’d love to see her around 1 p.m.
but will be unable to entertain her past 5.Unless you create boundaries, there won’t be any, and the friendship you have with her will implode. DEAR ABBY: I’m a 43-year-old woman who is unable to have children.
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