Dear Abby: My deadbeat son keeps getting fired from jobs should I kick him out?
DEAR ABBY: I am blessed with two sons who live with me.They are in their mid-20s.The younger one is an amazing young man.
He’s strong, confident but not cocky, and happy.He’s in college, works part-time and plays in a band, among other things. My older son is the opposite.
Since he was 16, he’s had countless jobs and is (again) currently unemployed.He has been fired from every single job except one.He always has some excuse to blame others for his failings.
He thinks he’s smarter than the rest of us, thinks he knows better, etc.I’ve tried to tell and show him the issue is with HIM, not his previous employers.He refuses to accept responsibility for anything wrong in his life. I love him, but he is driving me crazy.
I want to help him but, honestly, I’m over it.I’ve reached the point where it’s difficult to be civil to him.The last time he was out of work lasted three months.
When I gave him a “drop dead” date to find a job or I was kicking him out of the house, miraculously, he found one in the nick of time. We are back at that point again.I hate to do it, but I need him to either straighten up or get out.No matter what I do, I’m the bad guy — for enabling him or for forcing him out.
I would love some advice.— FED-UP MOM IN FLORIDADEAR MOM: Your son is no longer a child.
He needs to learn to stand on his own two feet.Give him another deadline to find a job or be out from under your roof.While he is employed, tell him you expect him to save enough money for a security deposit on a place to live.Do not expect him to like it or be grateful to you for having subsidized him as long as you have.
The biggest favor you can give him now is a chance to grow up.DEAR ABBY: My friend has ended our friendship because my husband and I refused to end our friendship with her soon-to-be ex-husband.All our friends (including the husbands of her girlfriends) are supporting her in blaming the ex, including labeling him an abuser, financial user and na...