Dear Abby: My brother-in-law built a death trap in his backyard should I call the cops?
DEAR ABBY: My brother-in-law thinks he is good with his hands.He built a deck on the back of his house, and it’s obvious that he’s not a professional.My husband and I have never sat on his deck because it doesn’t look safe.
(Others have said the same thing.)He bragged to me about how he got away with not having to pull any permits and never had the city inspect it while he was building it.He also didn’t have it inspected when it was finished.I’m afraid someday someone is going to be sitting on his deck and it’s going to collapse, and people will get hurt.I’m afraid if I call the city to report it and the city shows up at his house or sends him a letter or calls him, he will find out who reported him, even if I say I wish to remain anonymous.
(The city records all phone calls, and they also have caller ID.)When I tried talking to him about this, he told me to stay out of it because it’s none of my business.So, do I just keep my mouth shut and hope no one gets hurt? — CONCERNED RELATIVE IN THE MIDWESTDEAR RELATIVE: Please do not keep your mouth shut! Right now, the weather may be too cold for your brother-in-law to do any entertaining on that deck.But next time he is hosting friends and family, there could be an accident that might change lives forever.This needs to be reported before someone is severely injured or killed.DEAR ABBY: I’m falling for a man at church.
I’m a widow, and he’s a widower.We have been seeing each other for about two months.We talk for hours on the phone and in person.
He’s a writer, poet and musician.He reads me poems and Bible verses and even sings to me.
We both are laughing and happy. Unfortunately, I have a lot more money than he does.He knows I have a nice older car, but he hasn’t seen my condo.I’m afraid he won’t like me if he finds out I have a lot of money.I want to help him update his apartment since it’s very humble, and I don’t know how to do it.I want to be honest with him and help him, bu...