Dear Abby: My boyfriend is texting another woman behind my back

DEAR ABBY: My relationship with my partner hasn’t been the greatest, but we are both working on ourselves to become better partners.Recently, I found out he has been texting another female (flirting).

He 100% swore to me nothing more has happened besides the texting.He claims he likes the attention.

This other woman knows he’s in a relationship.How can I move forward from this? Before I found out, things were starting to get better.

Now I’m not sure how to feel.I want to move past this, but I’m hurting.

Help! — TAKEN ABACK IN CALIFORNIADEAR TAKEN ABACK: I understand that you are hurting, and I am sincerely sorry.Your partner has some serious flaws that you shouldn’t take lightly.

First, he is so insecure that he needs constant validation that he’s attractive — more validation than one woman can give him.Shovel as fast as you could, and you probably would never be able to fill that hole.

Second, he may also have an honesty problem.While I don’t usually advise readers to contact the “other woman,” in your case, if you do, you may learn enough to decide whether it would be in your best interest to move on. DEAR ABBY: Our parents and grandparents have passed.

There are five of seven siblings left.When we were living at home, holidays were special and celebrated on the actual day.

Once we moved away and started families of our own, it became difficult to get together every year on the exact date of the holiday.Some of us remained single; others wanted to spend the day with in-laws or at home with spouses and children.

We still wanted to get together, so some years we gather on the actual holiday or the day or weekend before or after.This seemed like a great compromise. Thirty years ago, one of our siblings decided that he wouldn’t join us for any holidays, including birthdays, unless they were celebrated on the exact day.

With different work schedules, travel and other family obligations, accommodating the wishes of the one sibling has...