Dear Abby: The love of my life wont commit to me, but I know were meant to be
DEAR ABBY: I’m 29, and my boyfriend is 36.We met on a dating site and were together for three years.
He broke up with me two months ago because he didn’t think he could marry me.(We weren’t engaged.) He says I’m the love of his life, soulmate and his dream come true, and I feel the same, but he has commitment issues. When I met him, I was in the process of getting divorced and ending an abusive marriage.
He was the best boyfriend, and, to us, our relationship was perfect.But his commitment issues gave him doubt that I’m the one he’s supposed to be with. I truly believe that God put him in my life.
Something told me he was The One.How can I get him to see that we are meant to be and not to give up on the best relationship both of us have ever had? — TRUE SOULMATE IN GEORGIADEAR SOULMATE: I love your sales pitch, but the person who has to buy it is him, and he’s not in the market for a permanent attachment.
Believe me, I sympathize, but both partners have to believe the other is “The One,” and the urge to commit appears to be definitely one-sided here. Remember, you met this man as you were getting out of an abusive relationship.He was kind; you pounced.
It would be interesting to know if you received any kind of counseling after that prior relationship, because you may need some now to make sure you don’t repeat an unhealthy pattern.DEAR ABBY: I was fortunate to learn an uncommon hobby from my grandmother.Because I am the only grandchild who continued the hobby, I inherited her tools.
I mainly keep in touch with my extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins) through social media, and, because of that, I post my work from time to time.They have expressed happiness that someone is continuing the hobby, so I want to continue sharing. My problem is that several friends constantly nag me to sell them my items.
I work full time, have a large family and volunteer at my kids’ schools, so I have little time to devote to my hobby.Each item take...