Why Is Dining Alone So Difficult?

There are few customers Conor Proft appreciates more than people who eat alone.A bartender at the Italian restaurant Fausto, in Prospect Heights, Brooklyn, he said the solo diners he serves tend to be more engaged and willing to chat.They are self-aware and more attuned to the restaurant’s rhythms.But does Mr.

Proft dine alone? Rarely.“I love the romantic ideal of going into a restaurant and sitting at the bar and striking up a conversation with a bartender,” he said.“But oftentimes in practice, I am just consumed with anxiety” about standing out.This is part of the paradox of solo dining.

Even as Americans are spending more time on their own, many find eating out alone to be rife with awkwardness and judgment.And many restaurateurs, who already run their businesses on thin profit margins, worry that tables for one will cost them.Reservations for solo dining in the United States have risen by 64 percent since 2019, according to data from OpenTable, and 21 percent from 2022 to 2023, according to Resy.

The increase in eating alone is probably even greater, given that many people simply walk in.The trend may stem in part from a post-pandemic uptick in business trips, when solo travelers need to grab a bite, or the rising attention given to self-care, said Debby Soo, OpenTable’s chief executive....