My fianc wants to wear her dead husbands wedding ring when we marry I feel like Im in second place

She wants to say “I do” — while still clinging to “I did.”One bride-to-be’s unconventional tribute to her late husband has sparked emotional fireworks before the ceremony even starts.A 30-year-old groom shared on Reddit’s infamous “Am I the A–hole” forum last week that he’s locking horns with his fiancée over one particular wedding-day detail: her plan to wear her deceased husband’s wedding ring on a chain around her neck as they tie the knot this fall.“There’s been one thing that’s been eating at me,” the poster admitted.The woman, Emily, was previously married to Tyler, who died in a tragic car accident five years ago.The couple had wed in their early 20s and, the Redditor wrote, were “truly in love.”“At first, she was very open about it, and I respected that.

I knew coming into this relationship that I wasn’t her ‘first great love,’ and I was okay with that.I still am, mostly,” he explained. “Over the years, I’ve supported her through moments of grief, anniversaries, random waves of sadness,” he went on.The Reddit user noted that “she still visits his grave on his birthday, and she keeps a box of his things in our closet,” and he’s “never touched it.”But when Emily revealed her plan to wear Tyler’s ring around her neck (à la “Sex and the City” jilted bride Carrie Bradshaw) as “a quiet tribute” during their nuptials, her fiancé was stunned.“She said she wouldn’t be where she is now without having gone through that loss, and she feels like carrying that part of her story into this new chapter is meaningful,” he wrote.“I didn’t say much at the time because I didn’t know how to respond.

But the more I sat with it, the more it bothered me.So I finally told her how I felt.”He confessed to her that it was difficult “to wrap my head around the idea of her wearing another man’s wedding ring — even if he’s gone.”“I told her it makes me feel like I’m sharing the most i...