Dear Abby: My parents hate me for being born a girl

DEAR ABBY: I am the only daughter in a family with four brothers.My family treats me like I don’t exist.

My father constantly hurts my feelings intentionally.When I express how he (and the others) make me feel, I am ignored.

It hurts deeply knowing my father doesn’t even like me.It feels like knives in my heart and my back. I have been dealing with this for 44 years.

I am sad all the time.I don’t trust anyone because of the lies and hate I get from my family.

I have done nothing to deserve this treatment.All I do is exist.

My husband and I are both ill, but we receive no compassion.I can’t afford a psychologist.

If I could, I would go to one.My heart aches for someone in my family to care about me.

How can I make this pain go away? — FAULTED FOR BEING HEREDEAR FAULTED: I am sorry for your pain.You may be able to get the help you need by contacting your county health department and asking about low-cost counseling services, or by reaching out to the nearest college or university that has a department of psychology and asking if any of their graduate students could see you (under supervision).

I cannot fix your family — no one can.But that doesn’t mean you can’t strengthen yourself, which is what you may need to do in order to stop hurting and find your indignation.DEAR ABBY: Our son and his girlfriend had our first grandchild 18 months ago.

We helped them move out of their rental house before the baby was born and buy a cute little house, which we made sure was in good shape before they moved in.(They had ruined the rental property with a couple of cats they had and their refusal to clean it at all.) We told them they had to keep the new house clean for themselves as well as our new grandson.The new house is now disgustingly filthy and filled with trash and the smell of cat urine.

We watch our grandson several times a week, even keeping him overnight.We don’t ask them for anything, and they don’t offer.

We feel he’s better off stayin...